With all of the excitement building over the upcoming release of
the movie version of FIFTY SHADES OF GREY by E.L. James, I got to thinking
about the way BDSM (Bondage-Dominance-Submission-Masochism) is portrayed in
romance novels today. I am not a fan of the FSofG series and do not expect to
see the movie unless I hear some very good things about it – namely that it’s better
than the book, but since a movie version of a book is so rarely better than the
original, I doubt it will happen.
Have you seen the trailer? Some think it's really sexy, racy, or whatever. I think it's about as exciting as the book. Not.
There are many romance authors today who portray
BDSM from mild to extreme so much more erotically, and genuinely that it got me
thinking back to some older romance novels which were never labeled as BDSM but
actually can be added to the list. One in particular is WARRIOR’S WOMAN by
Johanna Lindsay.
Now, before fans of Johanna Lindsay jump on me
and proclaim, NO WAY!, if you’ve read this particular book and its series, think about some of the sex portrayed. I loved this
trilogy of sci-fi romance created by Johanna and wish she’d revisit this type
of romance again.
In the year 2139, fearless Tedra De Arr sets out
to rescue her beleaguered planet Kystran from the savage rule of the evil Crad
Ce Moerr.
Experienced in combat but not in love, the beautiful, untouched Amazon flies
with Martha, her wise-cracking, free-thinking computer, to a world where
warriors reigns supreme - and into the arms of the one man she can never hope
to vanquish: the bronzed barbarian Challen Ly-San-Ter.
A magnificent creature of raw yet disciplined desires, the muscle-bound
primitive succeeds where no puny Kystran male had before - igniting a raging
fire within Tedra that must be extinguished before she can even think of saving
her enslaved world...
Many erotic romance novels today have a dominant
male paired with a confident yet submissive female where mild to extreme BDSM
is introduced between the couple but WARRIOR’S WOMAN was first released in 1990
by Avon Romance and for the time, it pushed the envelope further than most
romance novels had ever gone before. There was a cultural traditionalism behind
the behavior on the part of the hero, Challen, and the heroine, Tedra, was a
self-sufficient, tough, warrior who challenged her hero every step of the way.
Her refusal to submit to his dominant behavior resulted in a few punishment
scenes, one of which even included an explicitly non-painful spanking scene,
which left her hero with a very bad taste in his mouth. His punishment amounted to bringing her as close to orgasm as possible without allowing her the satisfaction
desired by her. When she told him if he wanted to truly punish her, he should do it
properly with a spanking. His means of punishment was never about pain but
simply a means to make her understand he was in control of her, and her
pleasure.
Well, as women, we may not agree with that because we all know we are
responsible for our own pleasure and it’s our willingness to share it with our
men, which enhances it and makes our men feel triumphant. But along the lines
of BDSM, Challen believed himself in charge, dominant if you will, but in
truth, we know it was Tedra who led his heart and so led his desire to please
her and keep her from pain.
So with this in mind, I’m drawn back to FIFTY
SHADES OF GREY and its manner of pushing the envelope toward humiliation, Christian’s need
to crush Ana, her heart, and make her feel as low as he feels. These are things
which turned me off about this series. I’m all for reading erotic romance with
BDSM themes, even when they don’t particularly make me comfortable. Voyeurism
themes tend to make me uncomfortable but not necessarily because of the theme
but it’s the idea of a man who loves his woman and yet still feels it’s okay for
other men to watch her pleasure that turns me away. I believe there’s play and
then there’s respect. Love needs respect to survive, just as it needs respect
to exist in the first place.
True, in any games of BDSM, there is a level of
mutual acceptance and the dynamic is supposed to be one of consensual play but
again, I don’t feel that in FSofG the way I feel it in other erotic romance
with BDSM elements. So my question to you is the same one I would ask a partner
in real life, how far is too far when introducing elements of bondage,
dominance, submission, and masochism into a romantic relationship?
Also, will you be seeing the movie?
Feel free to comment, rant, blast me, or agree -
I want to know your thoughts. Happy Reading Everyone!